{"id":6443,"date":"2013-04-12T11:36:47","date_gmt":"2013-04-12T15:36:47","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/ehealth.cooperhealth.org\/?p=6443"},"modified":"2013-04-12T11:36:47","modified_gmt":"2013-04-12T15:36:47","slug":"untangling-the-problem-what-to-do-about-bullying","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/blogs.cooperhealth.org\/ehealth\/2013\/04\/12\/untangling-the-problem-what-to-do-about-bullying\/","title":{"rendered":"Untangling the Bullying Problem"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><a href=\"http:\/\/ehealth.cooperhealth.org\/2013\/04\/untangling-the-problem-what-to-do-about-bullying\/bully\/\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignright size-full wp-image-6464\" style=\"margin-right: 0px;margin-bottom: 20px;margin-left: 10px\" title=\"bully\" src=\"http:\/\/ehealth.cooperhealth.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/04\/bully.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"200\" height=\"200\" \/><\/a>Bullying is often seen on the playground, on the school bus, around the lunch table \u2013 and, thanks to the internet and cell phones, via electronic devices and social media as well. As adults, it\u2019s easy for us to brush it off as a nuisance \u2013 but for children, it\u2019s a phenomenon that can be all too real.<\/p>\n<p>What should you do if your child comes home and mentions that he or she is being bullied? Or \u2013 perhaps more upsetting to you as the parent \u2013 what should you do if you get a phone call from the school or another parent letting you know YOUR child is bullying others? Richard Selznick, PhD, Director of the Cooper Learning Center at Children\u2019s Regional Hospital at Cooper, offers some tips for parents of bullied children and parents of bullies that can help deal with these complicated situations.<\/p>\n<h3>What can a parent do if a child is bullied?<\/h3>\n<ul>\n<li>Listen to your child more than talk.<\/li>\n<li>Bullying involves a power imbalance conducted repeatedly over time, with clear enjoyment on the part of the aggressor. Ask clarifying questions. Who was involved? Where and when did the bullying take place? Were adults there and how did they react?<\/li>\n<li>Be supportive and understanding without reacting too strongly. Strong reactions may overwhelm the child, resulting in their retreating from talking to you.<\/li>\n<li>Recognize that many typical \u201csolutions\u201d often don\u2019t work; i.e., asking bullied child to solve the problem, ignoring the problem, or to pretend they\u2019re not bothered.<\/li>\n<li>Work with the school. Tell them about your concerns, without necessarily making formal accusations.\/li&gt;<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h3>What can a parent do if a child bullies?<\/h3>\n<ul>\n<li>Take the problem very seriously. Let your child know the implications, such as significant curtailment of privileges, e.g., electronics of various types.<\/li>\n<li>Watch for mixed messages. Are you aggressive in the house? Do you have a bullying style?<\/li>\n<li>Talk to the \u00a0school administration with your child present, making it clear bullying won\u2019t be tolerated and show support to the school.<\/li>\n<li>Depending upon age, increase supervision of child\u2019s whereabouts.<\/li>\n<li>Monitor video\/computer\/cell phone usage. Make usage more public. Tell your child you will be monitoring their cell phone and text messaging.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>Richard Selznick, PhD, is the author of \u201c<a href=\"http:\/\/www.amazon.com\/The-Shut-Down-Learner-Academically-Discouraged\/dp\/1591810787\/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&amp;qid=1365781127&amp;sr=8-1&amp;keywords=Shut-Down+Learner\">Shut-Down Learner\u201d<\/a> &amp; \u201c<a href=\"http:\/\/www.amazon.com\/School-Struggles-Shut-Down-Learners-Success\/dp\/1591811783\/ref=sr_1_2?ie=UTF8&amp;qid=1365781127&amp;sr=8-2&amp;keywords=Shut-Down+Learner\">School Struggles<\/a>\u201d and the Director\/Psychologist of the Cooper Learning Center<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Bullying is often seen on the playground, on the school bus, over the lunch table \u2013 and, thanks to the internet and cell phones, via electronic devices and social media as well.  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